Day 2 Valentines day

So it has come to that time of year again. This year I am again single, but this year I'm confused (as I always seem to be)yet focused more (on who I am). As I previously stated in the post 'relationships and me', that being single isn't always the joy that its cracked up to be. I always seem to be in the friend zone, the place where I am awesome and amazing, caring and considerate. This is great for a reflection of my character though, yet last week it was pointed out that I'm not suitable, or ever will be, for a relationship because of outstanding issues. This person although nasty in their approach had a point. No one really wants the nice guy, they only want that as a friend, brother archetype. But what hurt me with this slight hidden message was the vengence that it was delivered, why was that even necessary? The concept that i might be unsuitable as a partner obviously makes me sad, at times does make me angry and wanting to change myself, but today of all days has made me realise that I do offer love and affection, just not always in the way of a partner. But It's still a selfless love, and who doesn't want that? I was reminded through my readings of 1 Corinthians. Where it states that love is patient and love is kind, it continues to explain other aspects of love. All of which I offer, but it doesn't say that this love has to be to a partner. As Christians, we should be a generous people, giving whatever we can whenever we can. And that doesn't just mean money, we can give help, encouragement, time, LOVE and forgiveness. This means we can't let selfishness get in the way. A lot of people are stingy, clinging to what they have and afraid to give it up. Others aren't stingy in their actions, but they are stingy in their hearts, giving because they feel obligated, not because they really want to. I have been called a mug or an idiot because I will often hide away my problems and bury them, however much they are a prominant thing at the time, and quite happily focus on helping others, supporting them through their times of need. I don't say this because I want thanks and praise, i would like to think that the people around me know that I don't want that. I do this, because I am kind, and for some reason it is what I can give to others, this is my servitude, I honestly want to help people, mainly the ones I care about (I know we should help everyone....I'm a work in Progress) But people kind of get blind sided with money and possesions,especially ona day like today, this isn't the way God calls us to give, or the way that God wants us to love. Second Corinthians 9:7 tells us, "God loves (He takes pleasure in, prizes above other things, and is unwilling to abandon or to do without) a cheerful (joyous, 'prompt to do it') giver whose heart is in his giving." If you think about it, when we give our lives to God, everything we have is His anyway, it no longer belongs to us. We should be givers, using our resources the way He wants us to. I see this and think, Would God give me a £2 card and some chocolates to show that he loves me, of course not. I like to think I do what God would do, and i try to invest in the person. Giving cheerfully all year round , showing them I care. I don't want you to get me wrong though, don't avoid days like today, if it motivates you to show you love someone then great. Just do it with passion, insight and cheerfully. Give cheerfully today. It pleases God, and those who give cheerfully are happy, fulfilled, and highly effective. On this conclusion, on this day, I will continue to show my reflection of my character and offer love, isn't that the point of today to show someone you love your love? It can be all sorts and a love for a partner, I still believe can come from this love even if that means me waiting). Try to start by Ignoring your past, ignoring your horrible fears and just say 'hey this person is awesome and I love them the way they are. Showing them that love, showing them room for more' with that we can truly experience love for one another and that love will grow as long as its not over shadowed by fear, worry or anger..like the person i mentioned at the beginning...these negatives are the only things I believe that truly affects your growth of love. Spend today, reflecting your nature and show love and kindness, selfless behaviour, remembering that you have love for others. Can we all do that? Remind people why we love them. Give it a try.